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“Love pain” is really just the same as any other trauma in terms of its symptoms . In fact it can be considered as a form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). The symptoms are anxiety, depression, insomnia and constant rumination about what went wrong in the relationship. Some sufferers find they think constantly about the person they have lost while others discover that they cannot imagine what their lost lover looks like – a phenomenon which is due to repression of the mental pain.
Many sufferers, especially females, turn to “comfort eating” while others lose their appetite. In the worst cases sufferers commit suicide in an attempt to relieve their mental anguish.
Although losing a lover may not appear to be objectively the worst thing that can happen to an individual, the level of mental pain can actually be worse than following a bereavement.
Most people get over their symptoms in a few weeks while others take months or even years. There are even cases in which people never really get over the trauma and are still having symptoms 30 years later. Love pain can sometimes be the catalyst which triggers more serious mental illness such as agoraphobia and chronic depression.
Until the advent of Thought Field Therapy (TFT) there was no effective treatment for love pain and sufferers simply had to grin and bear it. However TFT can relieve symptoms in minutes. In some cases only a single treatment is required but if the relationship is not totally over and the patient is being continually re-traumatized then the treatment sequence may have to be repeated.
Dr Roger Callahan ,inventor of TFT.,is also an expert on relationships and love pain and has written books on this subject. He also believes that untreated love pain can lead to a condition called amourophobia – literally a phobia or fear of further relationships. According to Callahan amourophobia is actually the commonest phobia. Amourophobia sufferers – usually female – will often sabotage their own relationships when they start to get serious in an attempt to avoid the pain and hurt of a future rejection.
CASE HISTORY No 1 Helen, a 29 year old single parent from Edinburgh, broke up with her boyfriend Tom three years ago. Since then her weight has ballooned due to comfort eating and is she is now 5 stone overweight. Recently Helen attended a lecture / demonstration on Thought Field Therapy by Dr Colin Barron,who works at Glasgow’s Nuffield Hospital.
Towards the end of the evening Dr Barron asked for volunteers from the audience to come forward for treatment and Helen put up her hand. She explained that she could not stop eating and even ate when she wasn’t hungry. Dr Barron immediately asked her if she had suffered a trauma in the past few years. She broke down sobbing as she explained how she had split up with her boyfriend and could not get him out of her mind.
Dr Barron then asked her to rate her level of mental distress on a scale of 1 to 10. It was a 10. Dr Barron then took Helen through a tapping sequence designed to relieve trauma symptoms. Within 7 minutes Helen’s anxiety had vanished and she was down to a 1 on the 1-10 scale. At this point she broke into a smile and laughed ,”I am not thinking about him any more. I can’t believe it,” she said as the astonished audience broke into applause. Dr Barron then treated her comfort eating with another tapping sequence.
Helen is now eating normally and the pounds are coming off.
Alison, a 37 year old businesswoman from Falkirk, was devastated when her husband left her for a younger woman recently. She found it hard to sleep at night and when she did she had nightmares She couldn’t concentrate at work and she felt anxious and depressed. One day she even had a panic attack while driving .
She went to her G. P. who put her on a 2 week course of sleeping tablets and was referred to a clinical psychologist – but there was a 2 month waiting time for an appointment.
One day ,in desperation, she made an appointment to see Dr Colin Barron who works as a medically qualified hypnotherapist at Glasgow’s Nuffield Hospital. When she arrived for her appointment Dr Barron explained that she would be treated with a technique called Thought Field Therapy which is faster and more effective than hypnosis.
Within 10 minutes of starting treatment Alison felt much calmer. After treating the trauma of the break up, Dr Barron then gave her a treatment for depression which worked in minutes.
At the next appointment Alison was symptom – free. She was sleeping well and was no longer plagued by nightmares and panic attacks. She also reported that she had started dating again.
“ It is hard to believe that such a dramatic change could occur so quickly,” she said. “My G..P. was very sympathetic but there was really nothing he could do to help me. Thought Field Therapy has given me my life back!”.
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